I was in college and dating my first boyfriend. Although I loved him deeply, we both came to the realization that I wasn’t fully satisfied with our sex life. When I sheepishly admitted that I wished he would go down on me more, he defensively explained that he didn’t like to because it felt like carpet burn. His bluntness left me shocked, embarrassed, and stung by the accusation.

Still, I knew exactly what he was talking about. I had been shaving my pubic hair for nearly six years at that point. Every week I slid a razor over my most sensitive nooks and crannies, leaving my pussy smooth… for about 24 hours. Then the little hairs would grow back short, sharp, and prickly and remain that way until they were long enough to shave again.

I hated shaving. It was time-consuming. I hated the delicate balancing act of trying to use creams and butters for a smoother shave while avoiding irritation in my most sensitive areas. I hated the constant ingrown hairs and the scars they left behind. I hated the way the prickly hairs on one lip rubbed against and irritated the other. Yet, even though I hated it, I kept doing it. I thought this was how women were supposed to groom. I thought this was what sexual partners expected.

When my boyfriend told me that licking me gave him carpet burn, my reasons for shaving finally crumbled. My partner didn’t like it. I didn’t like it. And while it might have been what society expected, I realized—who’s really policing my pubes? So I stopped shaving, and I have felt amazing ever since.

I still trim and groom regularly, but I feel so much sexier now. I waste less time, I’m no longer embarrassed by dark spots and scars from ingrown hairs, I don’t deal with yeast infections caused by shaving creams, and I genuinely love how I look nude. The way the hair frames my womanhood feels deeply affirming. No one has run away screaming from my pubes, and in the end, my ex loved my soft, curly bush.

Now, as a stripper and adult content creator, I remain true to myself. I may choose to groom differently at different points in my career, but right now I love my fuzzy bush. If I ever decide to change, it will be because I want to, not because I’m supposed to.

Photo by Edith Soto: https://www.pexels.com/photo/black-and-white-photography-of-a-wet-torso-of-a-woman-19423154/

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